Principles For Marital Harmony
Tyranny and oppression mark world history like a plague. Terror, violence, and social abuses are almost commonplace. A lone gunman kills a dozen and wounds over forty unsuspecting people in the name of religion. Hate crimes threaten everyone. Prejudice, discrimination, and reverse discrimination affect us all.
The world is smaller today than ever before. If something happens in Asia, it appears within minutes in our own homes. A murder in Orlando, touches families in Spokane almost instantly. The pressures of oppression and the thirst for freedom meet at our kitchen tables day after day. We are all affected.
How does all of this affect our marriages and homes? Apparently, it has affected thousands of homes as indicated by the over half of first marriages and over two thirds of second marriages ending in divorce.
Where can we find foundational principles to guide us in our marriages? As a Christian minister, I have discovered some critical principles revealed in the Bible, however, I have been pleasantly surprised to find that these same ideas are also recommended by many of the authorities today on success in marriage.
Rule A: Husbands and wives are not the same, but in marriage they must share mutually to insure success. Whenever one or the other holds back, both suffer. Whenever one or the other oppresses, both suffer. Only when husband and wife freely give their love, their work, or their lives to each other mutually can they be assured of marital success.
Principle B: Marriages flourish when led by husbands of integrity, industry, and sensitivity. Good leadership lifts the whole family. The husband needs to project a vision of family mission and set the pace toward achieving that dream. With compassion and a listening ear, the husband willingly sacrifices his own welfare for the benefit of his marriage and family and their mutual mission.
Protection of the family is inherent In the husband’s leadership. It is his duty to protect his wife from all manner of threats. Out of love, the husband places himself between his wife and any threat that might injure his wife. For this reason, a husband will guard against dangerous situations and dangerous people.
Principle C: Providing for the needs of his family is the duty of the husband. With hard works and self sacrifice, the husband is expected to supply the needs of his family. A dedicated wife will assist her husband and encourage him in his effort to meet this responsibility.
Rule D: Companionship is the mission of a wife. Her duty is to join her husband to mutually pursue the dreams of marriage and family. Honor, respect, and assistance are the wife’s critical contribution. She needs to willingly give herself to meet her husband’s most basic needs.
An abusive husband may abuse his wife, but a beloved wife freely shares her life, gives her love, and sacrifices herself for the welfare of her marriage and family. Giving always blesses. Giving always uplifts. Giving always blesses. Giving always strengthens marriages.
When a man dominates or dictates to his wife, he fails as the leader of his home. It is essential that a man listen to his wife. It is vital that he be willing to sacrifice his pride, his self interest, even his own welfare to meet the needs of his wife.
Who benefits when husbands diligently practice these core principles of marriage? The husband, the wife, the family, and everyone they touch is blessed by their love.
Marriages thrive when wives dedicate themselves to their husbands standing with them and for them.
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